Parent Reminder: Expectations for Parent Conduct on the Sidelines
JUST A REMINDER: The Redmond Girls Select Basketball Club has a zero tolerance policy for unacceptable behavior exhibited by parents and/or players during games. Players and Parents both signed a Code of Conduct Agreement at the beginning of the season. The Redmond Girls Select Basketball Club BOD, as well as coaches, expect these agreements to be adhered to at all times, whether at a practice or at a game. If you have not signed this agreement or would like to refer to it, please click here
Bruce Brown, a motivational speaker on pro-active coaching, has written a series on parent roles in sports. He writes that parents play 4 basic roles during their child's game.
We want to provide an atmosphere of support, sportsmanship and encouragement. Please review the following four rules the coaching staff would like you to follow to maximize your child’s experience.
Parents Role During the Game:
1/ Practice Objectivity: Basketball is a fast contact sport in a confined space that makes it very subjective. The game is perceived by what color jersey your child is wearing. Go to a game where you don’t know anyone, and you’ll be amazed at what good coaching and refereeing there is!
2/ Model Appropriate Behavior: We have all seen screaming parents. Remember that you are a role model for your child and that your actions may negatively impact their experience.
3/ Focus on the Team: Try to avoid having a spotlight on your child throughout the whole game. Basketball is a team sport. It can place additional pressure on your child.
4/ One Instructional Voice: Release your child to take instruction from his coach. Support, encourage, and yell positives all night, but leave the instruction to the coach.
More from Bruce Brown...
"What Makes a Nightmare Sports Parent and What Makes A Great One"
An Interview with Bruce Brown, a youth and high school coach for over 30 years and motivational speaker on proactive coaching
Hundreds of college athletes were asked to think back: "What is your worst memory from playing youth and high school sports?"
Their overwhelming response: "The ride home from games with my parents."
The informal survey lasted three decades, initiated by two former longtime coaches who over time became staunch advocates for the player, for the adolescent, for the child. Bruce E. Brown and Rob Miller of Proactive Coaching LLC are
devoted to helping adults avoid becoming a nightmare sports parent, speaking at colleges, high schools and youth leagues to more than a million athletes, coaches and parents in the last 12 years.
Those same college athletes were asked what their parents said that made them feel great, that amplified their joy during and after a ballgame.
Their overwhelming response: "I love to watch you play."
The Role of Parents in Athletics. Click HERE for full article
A successful experience for the athlete involves the communication triangle between the parent, athlete, and coach. If handled correctly with both parent and coach working together for the benefit of the athlete, the athletic experience can be extremely positive. Parents must also realize and be aware that there is a delicate line between support/ encouragement and interference. Everyone in the process, coaches and parents alike, must always remember that kids’ needs come first.